Something that I have always wondered but have been too afraid to ask…
How many women don’t care about their birth as long as they get effective pain relief from an epidural?
Thankfully, PinkyRN wrote something today that saved me from putting the topic on the table:
The cause of that is not the epidural the woman chose. However, I have one caveat, I think the woman needs to be in active labor before an epidural is placed. Now this is a huge fight many days. And many women just don’t care how the baby comes out. They just want an epidural even though they are long thick and closed….I cannot talk them out of it. I try to give them the information they need to make this choice.
But really when they are in that pain, they don’t give a flying rats a$$ about medical literature. Sorry I digress….Early epidurals is a subject for another day. However very early epidurals, like the woman’s cervix is closed, is a big concern of mine that they will not progress to anywhere but the big room for the C-section. Now if the patient is OK with that, I guess it is her decision to make.
The reason I held off on asking is because I would get really, really disappointed if I got a slew of mother-bashing comments about epidurals á la Strollerderby commenter Crunchy Mama, who wrote the following about epidurals and the women who get them:
Women who get epidurals are cowards. Yes, having a baby hurts. Deal with it. In the process, you might discover that you can actually deal with just about anything. A good skill for a mother to have.
Yes, I know whereof I speak. I had all three of my children without taking so much as a Tylenol, and I had them at home, to boot.
Facing danger and emerging triumphant is character building, and character is something this country could use a little more of. Whiners, boo-hoo’ers, victims, wimps… we have plenty of those.
Obviously, I am not referring to anyone with a life threatening complication. Giving birth can and does kill mothers and babies. But as far as I know being a candyass doesn’t qualify as a life threatening medical emergency.
On Stork Stories, the anonymous super-nurse recounts how in the seventies when she began her work in L&D, it was common for women to request (or agree to) general anesthesia in labor and common for the hospital staff to oblige:
Many of the mom’s in labor opted to be “put under” which didn’t happened until they were moved to the delivery room, crowning. Seem so ridiculous now…I mean it’s just about over!
My question is mostly for care providers and for women discussing their own experiences in the hospital. Discussing the experiences of others is fine if judgment is withheld and I appreciate your cooperation on this.
Is it common for women to hop right onto the bed and say something like I don’t really care what happens as long as we both come out alive and I don’t have to feel a thing?
And as a care provider, how do you react to this?