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Wondering if there's a difference between the nesting habits of women who home birth and those who birth elsewhere. I don't remember being this crazy about cleaning with my hospital births.
Just had a prenatal visit today .... got grilled by the couple about statistics at our hospital, intervention rates at our practice. I stood there and found myself telling these people that I fully and completely support them moving to another practice because I could not guarantee to make them safe (from unnecessary intervention). I am thinking it might be time to make the home birth switch I have been considering.
I had my daughter two weeks ago today. I attempted a VBAC, labored for 28 hours, stalled out at 8cm and the OB who works with my midwives insisted on a c-section and I consented. I have been grieving the loss of my VBAC for the past two weeks. I just feel like I was taken advantage of in the position I was in (contractions so bad that my body was pushing against them) and I feel like he had a personal vendetta against me since I refused to meet with him during my pregnancy. After I was stitched up and my husband and doula left the OR this doctor actually stood over me and said "No more VBAC's for you!" as if he was happy about it.
ohhh... nesting... the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy I was super tired but cleaning a looottttt!!!... by the way.. I will be assisting my friend on her hospital natural birth any day now... I was wondering if you all have the c-sec rates of Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami Fl... any suggestions are welcome.. this will be my first labor as a coach... I am a massage therapist, so I know how to help with pain, and breathing, reflexology, done childbirth and lactation classes... but you all ladies are waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy more experienced.. so if you can coach me to coach... send me an email.. email@example.com... thank you!!!
Nervous about even considering child #3..... I had pre-eclampsia with both my pregnancies, my second we were sent to a high risk doc due to excess amnotic fluid and a large baby. My son was an induction due to a spike in blood pressure, my daughter was a semi-emergency c-sec due to spike in blood pressure (175/125), she was scheduled the next day, at 38wks due to u/s weight estimate of 10lb 11oz, she turned out being 9lb 8oz with a 15 inch head and a tooth!! After that, everything is a blur.... When we left the hospital, she was 8lb 6oz, at her 6 day check, she was 8lb 6oz.....I said something then, but was brushed off...at her 1 month check, she was 8lb 6oz. I about freaked. The doctor checked her bloodwork, a mini panel, and she had high liver enzymes. We were sent to a gastroenterologist. She was 5wks old at her first visit. I figured it would be "well her enzymes aren't really THAT high" and that's what he said, but then came the biggest surprise of all, "I'm extremely concerned about her weight, had you seen any other doctor in the practice you would be being admitted into Scottish Rite right now" *panic* She was tested for all sorts of things......metabolic issues, genetic issues, cystic fibrosis. It was extremely scary. It was a Thursday...I was breast feeding and was told to stop immediately! No more breastmilk. I fought and fought, I pumped for 5 days, but all I was doing was feeding her and pumping....and I have a 3 year old also! Finally I was able to breast feed again...but it didn't work. Nipple confusion..I fought hard for many months and finally succumbed to the pain and agony of her biting (she has a tooth) and her still being hungry after nursing. We saw a lactation consult for many many visits to no avail. It was horrible....I cried because I couldn't even feed my own child and she was HUNGRY. I still get teary-eyed thinking about it. Her weight was in the 2nd percentile, diagnosed failure to thrive and I was scared. She didn't look sick, she was just tiny. She was cleared in late March of this year from her specialist and I'm happy to report at her 1yr check she was in the 50th percentile for weight! I still feel like I missed a ton of her first year worrying despite knowing if there was a problem, there was little I could do about it. They never found a cause for her high liver enzymes, but they have thus far resolved.Now I've been diagnosed with PCOS (poly cystic ovaries) and am a classic textbook case: overweight, high cholesterol, cysts on ovaries, elevated testosterone. *sigh* Of course, I was told, when first diagnosed 10yrs ago, that I could never have kids *cough...* RIIIGHT! I'm concerned about trying again. I'm on birth control pills to lover my testosterone and was told I'd probably have to see a specialist to get pregnant (right...I was 24wks preg with my first before we found out......and #2 wasn't a problem either) Who knows!!
Just what's on my mind.........
I'm thinking about my sister, who at this very moment is attempting her first VBAC. I'm frustrated because they won't "let" her go past THEIR 41 week date for her and even more frustrated that her husband won't let her tell them to STICK IT.I'm also thinking about my own upcoming birth and wondering what this 6th birth will be like. Will it be another 10 pounder? Or can I finally have one down in the 8 pound category?
I'm going to really say what's on my mind...
I am very tired of doula's who get so wrapped up in their beliefs that they become as harsh and judgmental as some of the nurse, doctors and medwives out there.
I am tired of being tired and sick..
I feel guilty I haven't finished my "fabulous" blog post that I intended on posted here 3weeks ago!
I feel guilty I haven't wrote a new post for my own blog, or studied from my Doula manual, or read any of my required reading books. I've done plenty of porcelain make sessions, lots of only making as far as my couch and if I didn't have mini laptop I wouldn't make it online at all.
I really truly wish that people would take a few breaths, a step back and THINK before they write something in response to someone who wrote something they don't agree with. Consider what you don't agree with. The actual person, who you more than likely DO NOT KNOW or what they said in particular. More importantly, remember that you can disagree with a point of view with intense hate and anger
I wish I could give my children away until the first trimester is over!
I am scared to death I am going to end up being one of those poor women who actually do not feel better after the 1st trimester.
Carolina, that is great! You're on the road to Doulaville. :) Sending good labor vibes to your friend (and to you, too).
Jackson Memorial's rate is 47.7%. 2,637 cesareans out of 5,524 deliveries.
Kelly, congratulations on your birth. I'm sorry you felt cornered by that doctor. It's a pretty weird announcement to proclaim while smiling, as if you never should have tried for a VBAC or something.
Thanks for your comment.
Patrice, I heart you. I obviously can't help you not barf or nap, but if there's anything you can think of that I can help with, call me.